Is that when my friend comes to take me to the hospital, I’ll still be wearing my pajamas. And not just any pajamas, my mumu. It’s 2:45pm.
GOODBYE GONNA GO JUMP OFF A BRIDGE NOW!
How the hell do people stay motivated? First, I’m suffering from the post vacation blues but don’t feel sorry for me, I was getting strung out and exhausted in Paris with two ladies I love. HOWEVER, it’s that time of year when we all want to hibernate, eat, Christmas shop and binge watch on shows like Sons of Anarchy. And go to party after party after party… Fun fact, I got home from my first of several Christmas parties last night at 5:30am. Who the hell do I think I am?
I recently had a long conversation about motivation with a friend of mine, it’s ebbs and flows and the reasons for the aforementioned ebbs and flows. I’m, ironically, my best when I’m my worst. It’s only when I’m sinking faster than the Titanic that I actually get my ass outta bed, meditate, practice yoga, juice, read, pray. Le sigh.
Tina introduced me to the concept of “dynamic tension” in relation to motivation. Essentially dynamic tension is created when you are truthful and clear about where you are in life verses where you want to be. If you’re at your worst or furthest from your goal, the tension between the two places makes you work that much harder or feel that much worse therefore motivating you to get your ass movin’. Once you’re feeling a little better or even a smaller step closer to your goals, the tension eases up and so do our motivations or actions. It makes the most sense ever.
Ok great, now we know why we’re still laying in bed BUT HOW, PRAY TELL, DO WE GET OUT?! The article goes on to mention baby steps which to me is somewhat vague and only reminds me What About Bob. But truthfully, Bob had it right. He knew to get anywhere, in his case literally, each action or baby step was simply one step towards his goal even if they were so ridiculous. So here is something I am going to do as not Bob: 1) write down where I am AND write down where I want to be, specifically, in all aspects of my life, 2) remind myself everyday that I’m not there yet (my old acting teacher told me that you’re never there there), 3) liter my home with post-its of inspirational quotes, 4) keep working on my vision “board” in the career corner of my feng shui bedroom. My “board” is a rope with photos of inspiring people, ideas on career, ticket stubs, art, etc each paper clipped on. I like to be able to change things out and it looks better than a stupid poster board.
I don’t know you guys, it’s all trial and error! I’m sure I’ll blog about how incredible I’ve been at doing all these wonderful things in a month and then two months later post another article in my mumu at 3pm! But ya know, life.